Your inner knowing is your only true compass. ~ Joy Page
How Do We Decide What’s Best for Ourselves?
How can I make sure I’m staying well? Am I actually living my “best life”? Perhaps more than ever, the global pandemic led many of us to ponder more deeply about the status of our health, our well-being, and for some, priorities in life generally. To some of us, it might seem wonderful at first that all it takes is a simple google search to discover hundreds of thousands of products and services ready to share with us the secret to a better way of life. And there truly are so many modalities and practices out there from which we can benefit. However, you might begin to wonder, at what point does searching for answers outside of oneself become counterproductive to getting in touch with one’s inner knowing about what is best for oneself? Or perhaps you are wondering, at what point is this just another form of consumption that never quite delivers the “quick fix” it promises to? In our profit-driven world, self-trust has never been more important. When it comes to considering how best to support each other with bringing about positive change in our lives, we might also need to encourage each other to look within ourselves for those answers – for that inner knowing about what is best for us at this time. If I had one wish for the New Year, or for all of us who endeavor to take better care of ourselves, it would be that we continue to support one another by staying connected to our inner voice. After all, our relationship with ourselves, I believe, is our greatest and most reliable life-long resource.
Practices that Can Help You Get in Touch with Your Inner Voice
If you’re like many of us, it can be hard to sense or stay in touch with your inner voice. It can also be hard to tease out the influence of the voices we’ve internalized from our childhood caregivers or from societal norms. As a result, it can be hugely supportive to find a practice that helps you to get in touch with your inner voice. If you’re looking for ideas or a place to start, below is a list of practices that can support you.
Try journaling in the morning. Take 10- 15 minutes to write down whatever comes to mind. Allow your stream of consciousness to flow and you will likely begin to get in touch with aspects of your inner knowing.
Develop boundaries. It is very challenging to discern which thoughts and feelings are our own if we are not setting clear boundaries with others. By expressing your boundaries, you quiet the voices and pressures from others such that you begin to feel into your own.
Mind your physical and mental health. Ensuring that you are connecting with the social or professional support that you need is essential. Additionally, eating healthy foods, getting enough rest, and physical movement are hugely important. If you are staying well physically and emotionally, you will have a better sense of what is an emotional reaction vs. your inner voice.
Spend some time alone without distractions. Taking a half hour to slow down without technology or any other distractions can do a world of good. Rather than trying to force your inner voice to come through, simply create the conditions to allow for deeper inner listening.